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I was reading some baby/pregnancy forums recently (guilty) and am a little shocked about some of the topics of these women.  I’m not the most secure woman in the world and I’ll admit that without hesitation.  But these women are upset because their husbands watch porn.  Really?  Not bad porn like rape or with kids or anything but, seriously run of the mill porn.  They say they are seriously offended by it and want their husbands to stop because it’s ruining their marriage.  

It got me thinking.  I used to date a guy who couldn’t keep his hands or eyes off of porn.  Every chance he’d get he would buy a magazine (Internet wasn’t really around or accessible yet) or watch a movie or something.  I was in high school and he was just out.  It drove me crazy.  I couldn’t stand it that he wanted to see other women naked besides me.  Then when he finally did get Internet access, he would print these pictures off of the women.  He would hide them in his playboy stash in his closet.  I’m still not sure why.  Anyway, I knew where his stash was and he would consistently lie to me about watching porn or accessing it on the Internet.  Ummm…  dumbass, you have the printed pictures with the dates on them hidden in your closet.  How dumb do you think I am???  That relationship dwindled thank the good Lord!

From that point on I was curious.  I had not yet ventured “down there” alone.  I didn’t think women did that.  No one talked about it and I guess I just didn’t feel the need?  The day I did was the day I realized what I’d been missing out on and porn was no longer a threat!  Seriously… no one told me about this???  Instead of jealous fits about boyfriends and their porn I wanted to join in the fun!  

I distinctly remember dating a man 10 years older then me and our first porn experience.  We were newly dating and out with friends.  One of them asked about women watching porn and if it was appropriate to talk about this with me around.  (He didn’t want to offend me.)  I let the cat out of the bag that I enjoy watching porn and my boyfriend about fell off his chair!!  He couldn’t believe that I wanted to watch it with him and how much it was a turn on for me.  Needless to say, after we got home he fired up the TV & found his favorite movie and it was a night neither one of us would forget.  We did it a few times after that but it wasn’t as nearly as impressive as the first night.

My husband will watch it every now and then.  He sort of gets freaked out when I say I want to watch it.  I guess he wants to feel like he’s getting away with something.  Now it’s mainly me that needs to get away with it!!  

So I guess I really don’t understand then threat of men watching porn.  I assume I watch it for the same reason.  I don’t “want” the man in the movie, I want my husband to do to me whatever the man is doing to the woman.  It’s that simple.  I find the people very attractive but it’s not like I’m watching them, hoping to meet them in real life one day.  I don’t know, I don’t get it.  Maybe if it interfered with our sex life, I’d a problem with it.  If he’d rather watch porn then have sex with me….  problem.  But that doesn’t seem to be the case with these women.  It seems to be just plain old insecurity.  I commented on it and was virtually beaten and I didn’t want to push it.  I just don’t see what the big deal is.  It’s men and women (or whatever you’re into) having sex and enjoying it.  Take a few notes and try the moves on your significant other… see if it helps 🙂

Now if you’ll excuse me, my husband is gone for the next 2 days.  I have some business to take care of.

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